Mom Demands Daughter Pay Rent While Living at Home, Daughter Refuses, Accusing Parents of Favoritism Between the Siblings

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Aug 24, 2024 10:00 PM EDT

As much as parents love to say they don't have a favorite child, everyone knows that is completely untrue. The parents know it, the kids know it, and even the cat knows it. They can try the hide it, and if they do it well, the favoritism can go undetected for a long time, but at some point, the small actions towards a specific kid pile up and the truth comes out.

For example, I have two sisters, and all three of us know that my parents love my younger sister the most. They spoiled her more growing up, let her do whatever she wanted with barely any consequences, and most importantly, they always took her side whenever we fought. 

Although I've accepted it, and they do really try to hide it, it still stings from time to time. That is why I cannot begin to comprehend how the daughter in this Reddit story feels about the obvious favoritism her parents show her brother. It reached a point where the parents demanded she pay rent at their home just so they could afford to fund her brother's lifestyle. Thankfully, the daughter refused and is now considering moving out of her parents' place.

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    AITA for telling my mom I'll pay rent when my brother does?
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    When my brother (22) and I (20f) were around 14 and 16 we were told that when we graduated high school, our options were go to college and get a part time job to pay for stuff like gas and our
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    phone bills and whatever else we wanted, don't go to college and get a full time job and pay rent, or move out. We were also told we only had 20k each in our college accounts and we'll have to get loans for everything else.
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    We both started out at community college. I changed my major 3 semesters in so I'm starting over, still in community college for another 2-3 semesters. We are also very lucky
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    that there are 3 state schools and a lot of private universities within an hour of my house. My brother chose one an hour and a half away so he'd have to get an apartment. He quit his job in June
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    and keeps making excuses as to why he can't get another one so they're paying $1600 a month for his apartment and another $500 directly to him for food, gas, etc.
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    Community college is free in my state and I have scholarships and Pell grants that cover anything school related so my college account is untouched right now.
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    I also work 2 part time jobs. I am a teacher at a local dance academy and I'm a party princess on weekends. They both pay pretty well. My dance teacher job pays me $35 an hour and I work
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    10-15 hours a week depending on the session. Party princess varies but my rates start at $150 for 45 minutes and can go all the way to $500 depending on what the parents select. I have a
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    website where the parents can choose the time slot and the basic activities for the time slot (like ballerina 10:15-11:00 story time, game, tattoos, performance, cake $150. Add goodie bags for
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    $75 Add mini lesson for $50 Add face painting for $65). I work up to 6 parties in a weekend and can do 20 a week during the summers and I've been doing this for 3.5 years.
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    My parents knew my business was good but they didn't know how good until I traded in my 2012 civic for a 2024 CRV hybrid and paid the difference in cash.
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    Now suddenly my parents are telling me that I need to pay rent and help out since I'm not really in school (my classes are mostly online because I like the flexibility that it allows). I asked why they're
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    suddenly asking now and they said it's because they're struggling. I asked why they're giving my brother $2100 a month if they're struggling but they said he needs the help. I finally told
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    them I'm holding up my end of the bargain. I go to school, I work to pay for my car insurance and phone bill and any extras I want. They let me stay here for free while I'm in school. If they really
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    need money this bad, they should tell my brother that he needs to get a job, get student loans, or transfer to one of the schools driving distance from home but I won't be paying rent until he does.
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    They think I'm being difficult and unfair and brought up how they paid for my dance and gymnastics growing up (I was a competitive dancer until I was 16 and I'm a level 8 gymnast) but
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    they also paid for my brother to be on his travel baseball team and got him a private coach so it evens out. I'm still refusing to pay rent and I'm considering moving
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    out and renting a room or living with my grandparents but I wanted to know if I was the for saying I won't pay rent until my brother does.
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    • olprockym 17h ago NTA. Your parents are teaching your brother to be an entitled lazy They should be proud of what you do, not asking for money that they chose to foolishly give your
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    brother. Hold your ground or move in with someone else. Your mom and dad aren't doing your brother a favor, he will be missing life lessons like being responsible and independent.
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    You seem very ambitious and accomplished at a very young age. Congratulations! What you earn is yours. Your parents' poor decisions on where they send their cash is their problem.
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    zanne54 16h ago DON'T YOU DARE PAY YOUR BROTHER'S RENT! Because you know that's exactly what they're asking of you. NTA
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    HippoSame8477 • 17h ago Move out
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    Southern_Math_8238 • 16h ago NTA - start apartment shopping, because money sours any relationship, and your parents are already acting resentful just because you are self sufficient. Your brother is the one being a leech not you, time to fully embrace your own independence!
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